Thoughts on Things Fall Apart

In the novel, Things Fall Apart, after reading most of the book I have developed numerous thoughts on the book. In the majority of the book, Okonkwo is fearful of becoming like his father and is very hotheaded. I feel he should be less hotheaded so he could wait and hear out the reasons behind a problem and not try to always use violence to fix his problems. I also think that women should not be forced to be under a man's control. Instead, to have more freedom and power. When Okonkwo killed his son and the fact that he was plotting to kill him makes me confused because I thought he loved him like his own son. Why would you do something so cruel in order to not seem weak? I think that Okonkwo is out of line for killing someone because they are afraid to seem weak. The fact that Ikemefuna last saw his own "father" kill him with an ax is heartbreaking and shows how cruel and coldhearted Okonkwo is. Then after he kills his son on purpose, all of a sudden he feels all sad and stops eating? That makes no type of sense to me. In the book, I also have thoughts on Okonkwo's way of fixing his problem by beating and using violence. The fact that it is okay to beat someone especially your wife just because they did one small thing is not okay. In fact beating someone, in general, is not okay instead, it shows how spiteful you are. In conclusion, the author is doing a great job surprising me and confusing me.